I do understand your frustration! I try to be as independent as possible, so my 1st response is always "no thanks". But as others have said its more for them then you- so I'm trying to let others assist more.
But here's another thought: years ago I was at a business seminar and the speaker told the story of an incident with a guy in another department that really ticked him off. After the incident, he went back and told his colleagues about it. Then his wife at dinner. When he was done with the story his wife asked "would you ever invite him home for dinner?" "NEVER" he shouted! "But in a way you just did!" she said. " You took him back to your desk, home on the train, then through dinner.... Will you be leaving him behind or will he be joining us in bed also?" ...
